From STRANGERS To BESTIES..

Who are besties? In my view Besties are those on whom you can bet your life on, who understands you better than everyone even your parents, with whom you can share each and everything knowing that your secrets are safe with them. If you can say that this is the person for whom I can leave other’s, then that person can be your partner or your bestie. So what is the difference between, partner and bestie. Leaving a partner can be easier than leaving a bestie.

People don’t become besties from the time they meet up for the first time. It takes time to transform from strangers to besties.  Love at first sight still exists but besties at first sight, NEVER. So, what all things are important or transform two people into besties? Is it money, force, you want to be besties so u become or something else. It is definitely something else, it’s not about how much money you spend on the person, it’s about how much time you spend with the person. You always want to be with your bestie at every point of time. It’s not about sharing something that is rare, it’s about fighting over thing even if that is in abundance. It’s about sharing your life with the person. You can’t stay calm till you don’t tell about each and every bit of your life to your bestie, their comments are most important without that your life feels incomplete. It is not only about how much you need your bestie, it’s also about how much you love, respect and care for your bestie. If you call someone your bestie, give them the preference over other and rights over your life and they return the same, then you both are besties in true terms. At those moments when you are near your bestie, you will be most comfortable and doesn’t care about the world much as your bestie will become your world. You can find each and every relationship in them.

In fact, besties are your half lovers. They are possessive for you, as they love you more than you can ever imagine, they get crazy when you get into some relationship as it means they might lose you, they are jealous when you talk to others as the bestie have a mindset that only I have that much rights to talk to their bestie, enjoy with them and pull their leg, they really want slap you when you ignore them for others or if you make them your second priority over some other person as this is that break their heart and hurt them like anything. Never take a bestie for granted, they are the only person who will stand by you every time, other people may come and go, but besties will be there at point to face each situation with you. And if you ever leave your bestie intentionally or unintentionally, the person ends up being alone and sad. A hug can sort out everything between two besties, words are not required even the silence makes you feel secure and happy when your bestie is around. There is no place for ego, anger and selfish motives in this type of friendship.

Becoming bestie means you are taking a sacred unspoken vow that, whatever happens your bestie is the one who you will never leave and never let them feel alone. You will always take care of them and talk to them like nothing happened even after lot of fights, that’s what bestie are (they fight, they care). The best thing about besties are that they make sure that only they have the right to pull your legs and say bad about their bestie, no one else has these rights and if someone does that they make sure that the person feel awful for making their bestie sad or for saying bad about their bestie. Sometimes they even minimize or stop talking to the other person if their bestie is being too uncomfortable or insecure due to the other person. There is no secret between besties, their lives are open book to each other.

"Friendship is a mirror, so that nothing can be hidden."

Your bestie is the one who will hold u back when you want to get into a relationship. Reason can be they don't feel that partner you are choosing is worth you, that is they may feel you will not happy in long term or the reason may be the feeling of loosing you. You might not give them that same importance that you use to give and you may not remain that close and open to them. So, they may act in the ways that you will feel that person is not your bestie anymore he/ she may crazy or may have fallen for you but the truth is totally different. It's true that they love you but not as a person to become your life partner. The love and affection they have for you is unexplainable for anyone as its not logical, it's emotional. So, when you meet your bestie spend the maximum time with them and concentrate on them only forget about everyone else for those moments as those small golden moments makes up your memories and makes you feel more connected to your bestie.

In end I would like to dedicate this to all my bestie, Mudit (Anu), Abhimanyu (Lorick) and Harmeet (Doggy), you all make my life most entertaining, and worth living. I love you all even when you all keep making me mad, crazy and feel like an idiot and miserable many time. You all mean a lot to me, my world. You all are always there to handle me when am mad or do non-sense activities and to show me the right path whenever I lose the track of it. Losing any of you would be like losing a part of me, which of course I can’t afford and you all understand that well. Harmeet my Baby Doggy (Mata), I know we became besties recently, and you are not habituated to my madness, care and love and the ways I show them. But I assure you, if you stay in my life as my bestie forever, trust me like before and try to understand me you will soon get habituated to all this and I promise you will be a lot more happier then you expect. One most important thing that you will need to understand is that I don’t want to hurt you in any way possible, but I always end up hurting you up due to some circumstances that come up. I am sorry for most of those things done by me that hurted you.

"FRIENDS come and go like waves in the ocean but BEST FRIENDS stay like octopus in the ocean"