Am I Worth It???

Form unknown to you became close and the best of friends. Started understanding each other in a way that no one would have been so understanding and in sync to your heart. You started treating the person in a best possible way and gave them a place in your heart, your life which you know you would not be able to give to anyone else. The person knows that well still kept testing you now and then. Finally accepted that you the most important person of their life after the family. Gave you hope and feeling that no one could ever take your place and they never want you to leave or go away from their life whatever happens. Suddenly after few days, he/ she says that someone else has become as important as you are whom he/she met long after you and they know that you and that person can never be friends and you had a fight with them which that third person started. Now the person close to you started avoiding you, lying to you, they even stopped calling or messaging you themselves. Always saying they are busy since the third person came in their life. But they always have time for that third person and if you catch them then they have an excuse to tell you. Once you were so important that they can't imagine to live without you, now they say that they can't leave the person as you can do or did for them, so it's your choice to stay or not in their life.


What would you be feeling that time? Will you not be feeling betrayed, cheated and faked? Will you not feel that your friendship was so cheap that the person changed in just few days? The person who is not your love but more that bestie and around whom you thought happiness of your life is building up; now you are watching that dream shattering and you feel that you are helpless disabled person who can't so anything to make that all back to as it was.


What you think could be the reason??
  1. Was it that you gave them so much importance and they knew it. Thus, they are sure you can't leave them, so they can do what they want?
  2. Was it that you friendship is so cheap or say normal that anyone can take your place?
  3. Or the person was not worth that important place in your heart?
  4. Or the person don't know to respect your friendship and had taken it for granted now.
  5. Or may be the person is not knowing what feeling are and know just to do what they like without considering the consequences.

Now, what would you do? I guess you would first call them as its a digital world, so everything is done over phone instead of doing all that in person. But to your surprise, the person will not pick up, even if phone is picked up, it would be some other person picking and saying that he/she don't want to talk. If anyhow you get to talk to the person, they are talking as nothing as happened. You are still holding yourself altogether even when the person keeps on saying that they are not going to leave someone, whom you know is going to be a big trouble for that close on of you, and he/she will not be able to take that.



At this time again the same question comes in mind..Am I Worth It?
Should I hold on and wait or should I move on? You know that if you are waiting, that person is going to come back but till that time comes you will need to suffocate in your life and have to act as if nothing is happening. You are going to have Regular fights and lot of tension. And you know that person is not going to care for more then few minutes at all if he/she did. Your talks will be making them bored as you will be emotional and they don't want to know your issues, they just want their life all the time. You care and love like no one can do, they will make you feel suffocated and terrified (of loosing the person) like no one can make you feel.

"Everyone has EGO issues, 
But who bows respects relations more than EGO."

Thus, the person who treats you like this, should think again and say. Sometimes you have to choose between two people, you want or not. Its not to satisfy someone's ego or to make someone feel important. It should be done to keep at least one of the relation healthy and strong. Neither they will fight over you, nor will they fight with you due to the other person. Thus, keeping you and the other's around you happy.

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