Lack of self-esteem in Children!!!

These days whenever we open a newspaper, tune to news channel or checkout for top news around us; what we get to read?? Small children are taking the extreme steps like Running away from home, doing Suicide, Killing and more. Even when I want to think that may be the situation or the environment around them made them do this, I couldn’t stop thinking that from where do they get so much of courage or is it lack of self esteem that make them do these all unethical, immoral, illegal activities.

Recently, I read in newspaper (mid-day, Mumbai, October 4,2016; Page 02) that a sandwich maker helped the police catch some robbers and just bellow that news was that a 16-year-old jumps of 6^th floor. And the mere reason was that she was scolded by her father. That’s is something that made me feel that its high time that parents realize that they should stop pampering their children like small babies all the time. People should really understand that they are not making their child strong, on the contrary children are becoming weak (especially mentally). They are not able to cope up with even small amount of sadness, scolding, punishments. As soon as the problem surfaces, they lose the control of themselves and start acting as if they are the only one with problem and mistreat everyone around them which is really not acceptable. If the future leaders of our country are so weak then how do you think our country is going to survive.

For a moment be selfish and think about your children not of country; how do you think they would survive as you did with honor and pride, facing the tough situations and overcoming them instead of running from them. Do you really think pampering them like small child and providing them all the facilities in the world without allowing them to work hard and earn those things all by themselves; going to build the right behavior towards the tough situations?? Please remember that they getting used to your pampering means they are getting too much dependable on you, lazy, arrogant and weak (they wouldn’t be able to work under pressure). They will be vulnerable to every threat in the world.

Please think if from childhood you wouldn’t have been taught to do your own work, or study do you think it would have been as easy as is it now or it would have been really tough? If you wouldn’t have met many people from different culture, different cities, different behavior and had talked to them face to face; would you have learned so much about them, their nature, their mindset etc. just by messages or googling. I would say no, you wouldn’t have. You know so much because you had so much of interaction with the people and spent time with nature not the technology. Your parents made you mentally and physically strong and immune to diseases. That’s what your child needs.  Don’t let them become a puppet of technology, make them go outside (it doesn’t mean to some theater, restaurants, or some places similar to that).

Children are so weak these days that even on getting scolded or denied for something that they want to buy, they want to give away their life, start drugs, some even go to extent that they kill the person who is not in sync with their thoughts or say no to them. Some say its takes lot of guts to do that. My opinion on that is if they use even half of that guts or courage in positive way they would live a better life than most of us. Taking the wrong path due to some problem is no where near to braveness, its Cowardness. Suicide and killing ofcourse take lot of guts but it’s not at all a brave thing, brave people stand in front of problem and face it. Brave itself denotes positivity.

I would whole heartedly request everyone (parents and teachers to be specific) to teach children to be positive and have strong moral values. Don’t force them to be like someone they are not, do not judge every child on same scale, every child has their own uniqueness. Forcing them from childhood to act opposite to their own nature is going to make them mentally weak and frustrated for sure. In addition to that we all are so busy earning; we people often forget that child needs special attention, and our support. We have to make them feel that no matter what we are there for them. If we let them feel alone and scared, then it affects them in negative way.

In last, I request to all parents please start observing your child’s behavior and actions, look for any sighs of negativity and try to resolve the issue. But please when you try to make them loved and show them that you are there for them, don’t make them feel pity for themselves. Showing too much love, unrequired pampering, always trying to help them out with every small bit of problem would make them weak from inside and too much dependable on you. So, please let them face the problems and tackle that; support when they ask for it or if you feel that they are going to break if not supported.

"LET'S MAKE THE CHILDREN STRONG FROM INSIDE AS WELL AS OUTSIDE."